More than 15 years into northeastern Nigeria's conflict with Boko Haram and its successors, an estimated 17,000 people remain missing across northern Nigeria, with approximately 10,000 in Borno State alone. These are advocacy estimates — their geographical coverage, reporting periods, and compilation methods have not been independently verified — but the underlying reality is not in dispute: thousands of families have no confirmed information about relatives who disappeared during attacks, flight, or travel through conflict zones. The two cases profiled here are structurally representative. Kashim Mohammed's sister Falmata disappeared in 2011 during travel from Maiduguri to Port Harcourt; a man once approached him claiming she had been found in Benin, then vanished without leaving contact details. Muhammad Alhaji Bashir's brother Adam, known as Bakura, went missing around 2012-2013 from Maiduguri while selling cosmetics and studying civil engineering at Ramat Polytechnic. In both cases, parents died — reportedly from hypertension — without learning their children's fates. The pattern is consistent: disappearance, fragmented leads, exhaustive searching of rehabilitation centres and displacement camps, and no resolution. The institutional response has been thin. The ICRC and Nigerian Red Cross Society support tracing and family reconnection, and the Red Cross periodically circulates notices with names and details. But no centralized, state-operated missing persons registry or forensic identification system exists at a scale matching the crisis. Families visit rehabilitation centres with photographs, rely on word-of-mouth, and follow unverifiable leads. The infrastructure gap is not bureaucratic delay — it is structural absence. In response, affected families created the Association for the Well-being of Displaced and Missing Persons' Families, established in 2023 in Bolori II, Ngarnam ward, Maiduguri, and registered with Nigeria's Corporate Affairs Commission in 2025. The group holds monthly meetings, shares information, and supports approximately 600 orphaned children from affected families. Some children attend school; others have dropped out because relatives cannot afford fees. The association's scope has expanded from tracing to managing the economic hardships that follow a breadwinner's disappearance — lost income, unmet needs for food, shelter, and education. The 2024 floods in Maiduguri compounded the crisis. Floodwaters submerged parts of Ngarnam, destroying photographs that families had kept as their primary identification tool for missing relatives. Without photographs, searches depend entirely on names, physical descriptions, and memory — forensic resources that degrade with time. What was already a needle-in-a-haystack problem became worse. The extraction here is not financial in the conventional sense. It is institutional. A conflict that has displaced millions and killed tens of thousands has produced a missing persons crisis that the Nigerian state has not absorbed into its governance capacity. Families bear the full cost of searching, organizing, and coping. The ICRC provides some support, but the gap between humanitarian assistance and a functioning state system remains vast. The association's self-organization is admirable and necessary, but it is also evidence of failure — communities building from scratch what should be public infrastructure. The 20-year trajectory is grim without intervention. Memories fade, witnesses die, photographs are lost, and the window for reunification or even confirmed death narrows. Children growing up without parents or with unanswered questions about their parents' fates carry the crisis forward generationally. Without a systematic registry, forensic identification capacity, and sustained funding, most of these 17,000 cases will age into permanent unknowns.